Essay Topic Ideas

Now listen carefully . . .

Firstly, we will take the empirical approach:

I am a bona fide woman and I swear on a stack of bibles that I have personally responded graciously to emails from many gentlemen enquirers and . . . I can produce the witnesses to back up these assertions. Further, I’m not emotionally desperate and I’m good looking enough to get the job done. It is possible but highly unlikely that I am the only women of such description who has answered emails from strangers in a civil tone.

Secondly, by report of both many (n=10 to the nth power) single men and women who socialize online, they are talking to one another plenty. Okay, this part is not very scientific, but here we can fall back on a more Cartesian approach which tells us that all those internet singles services wouldn’t be on the net unless there was some action from which to benefit. This is just an elemental law of economics: something must be working or so many people wouldn’t’ be spending money and time on the activity. Read Full Article >>

It depends on what you want. If . . . what you want most is to gratify powerful sexual instincts quickly . . . then become physically intimate with anyone attractive to you as soon as the opportunity presents itself. This timing works for many people, but only if they remember what it was they really wanted in the first place.

If . . . what you want most is to really get closer to someone
and possibly develop a deeply gratifying and reliable intimate partnership with him or her . . .
. . . then allow enough exposure to occur and enough time to pass so that the intimacy develops in a balanced way in several areas at the same time.

Some people have suggested a 3-Date Rule, in a desperate effort to avert the miserable consequences of the 1-night-stand which so fre-
quently result from having sex really fast. Read Full Article >>

I have been asked this question about a bazillion times. Basta!
The plaintive scenario goes like this: After meeting someone once – or even seeing them a few times – the plaintif’s date says goodbye in a perfectly friendly manner and promises to call. Soon is the expectation. Plaintif never hears from them again. Why, oh why? And how can this possibly be?

I suggest you explore the possibilities described below and never ask this question again. It is a waste of the valuable time and energy you need to devote to finding a fabulous mate.

He or she doesn’t want to see you again, didn’t have the courage to tell you directly, and thought you’d take a hint.
Come on! You might as well face your worst fears about a very realistic possibility. To put it in Newtonian terms: the gravitational pull of your mass was insufficient to overcome the other person’s inertia. Is this so humiliating? After all, you can’t know this person very well yet, so it is not like the loss of a grand amour. Anyway, if you really think he or she is just cravenly hiding out from you – and you are unwilling to put it to the test by calling them up and asking them – then you don’t really want them anyway. Finally, rejection finesse is a rare social commodity. Do you feel confident about it? Be realistic about the level of social skill in our culture, take it on the chin and get on to the next. Read Full Article >>

The Top 10 Horrifying Mistakes Made By Singles Seeking Partners:

1. Denying the Desire for a Primary Relationship
2. Failure to Pursue Private Pleasures
3. Disdaining to Attract the Opposite Sex
4. Resistance to Approaching the Opposite Sex
5. Being Too Judgemental
6. Focusing on Packages Instead of Contents
7. Failure to Cultivate Family, Friends, Aquaintances, and Community
8. Passively Waiting for Lightening to Strike
9. Stubborn Refusal to Date
10. Surrendering to Dis-Couragement

Susan? Oh, I broke up with her.
I found out she eats her peas one at a time.
I know, I know! But it was . . . vexing!
-Jerry Seinfeld, Seinfeld, Fall Season Opener

Thursday nights on NBC begins with one of the top hit sitcoms, Friends, followed by The Single Guy, Seinfeld, and Somebody-or-Other In The City. These shows deliver 2 solid hours of witty pathos about the hopes and disappointments of singles. And there are a bunch more shows just like this on other nights. Every now and then, the networks play musical timeslots and get the programs all jumbled up, so I forget which comes when. No matter, they are all saying pretty much the same thing.

One thing the current crop of sitcoms have in common is the way they humorously illuminate contemporary frustrations about dating and mating. In fact, the failure to find and sustain a gratifying, heterosexual relationship seems to be a recurring premise in all of them. Every week, a huge number of Americans vote with their remote controls to make fun of love discouragement right along with Jerry Seinfeld, who remains the frontrunner in Must-See-T.V. Read Full Article >>

Personal ads are a controversial way to meet people, but I’m not sure why. What makes them seem so unsavory and scary?

I mean, we have AIDS staring us in the face and the flesh-eating virus creeping up on us, zillions of people are being shelled some-
where, there’s a drive-by shooting on the hour, and our children are killing each other on the playgrounds . . .

. . . and what are hundreds of thousands of relatively safe, well-fed, resourceful single people intimidated by? Advertising . . . just advertising for what they want.
Many people frown or laugh or show disgust at the idea of meeting someone through a personal ad, either in newsprint or in cyberspace. There are those who have tried it and tell miserable sniveling tales of disappointment or rejection. And there are some who have gone through a conscious sorting process and have come up with great experiences.

The bottom line is that you can’t beat personal ads for expanding possibilities real fast.
Based on my discovery of “The Principle of Accelerated Social Access,” when someone places a personal ad they generally experience an immediate increase in the number of their social contacts. Read Full Article >>